We are at year-end. This is the time many people make New Year’s resolutions. This resolution should be at the top of every parent’s mind.
Take the time to take care of yourself.
Being a parent was difficult in 2012. It can be hard to support a family in a down economy. Work hours seem to be increasing all the time. It’s more hectic than ever. As if this weren’t enough, parents expect more from themselves than ever. We aim to raise our children as socially and emotionally intelligent, successful people. It is a lot of pressure.
First, resolve to take time for yourself in 2013. You don’t have time. It’s an excellent gift for you and your child to take time to look after yourself every day, even if it’s only for 5 minutes. You will be more patient, present, attentive, and calmer if you are happier and less reactive.
Walking, yoga, meditation, and walking are great stress relievers. Even if 2013 is not the year you feel you have the time, at least you can practice Maitri 2013. According to Pema Chodron, Maitri is unconditional kindness towards oneself. It is easy to judge ourselves harshly and feel we are failing as parents, friends, or partners. 2013 is the year to be gentler, kinder, and more accepting of yourself. It will benefit you and your children.
Children are resilient. Children are resilient. This will ease their transition to a new family life.
Once you have made it clear that you are open to feelings and questions, listening to all senses and questions is essential.
Divorce is not something you can do in one moment.
Here’s a link to the new article for which I was interviewed.
Parents contemplating divorce may find it helpful to talk with a child psychotherapist before speaking with their children about the topic.
